Mr. Kumar hosted a gathering at his house and boasted unabridged and at full length about his oh-so obedient son. Suddenly the son barges into the party hall and declares abruptly and noisily to his father about his night out with friends. The hall soon fills with chatters about this rude, callous, nasty, sour, pesky behavior of the son. What do you think how Mr. Kumar must have reacted in such a situation? Angry, hurt, irritated, embarrassed, or agitated?
At times, we witness such a stony display of attitude from our kids. And as adults, most of us react to it in a fit of rage and anger, without providing a conscious thought to the ‘why’ hiding behind it. So today, in this article below, we, at Delhi Public School, Sushant Lok, ranked among the top 10 schools in Gurgaon, will uncover some of the most common rationales hidden behind such a mean behavior of kids and also look at some of the ways to deal with their mean attitude. Read on.
- They seek attention:
Children are attention-hungry souls. At times, when they are unable to get the due attention or importance they are seeking, they act by displaying a callous attitude.
- They are too young to understand emotions:
Kids are quite impulsive and spontaneous. It is because they don’t comprehend comparatively nicer strategies to figure out difficulties, and also, their empathy is not yet completely evolved. As such, it is normal if they act mean at times. The need is for us, adults, to understand the same and handle the situation wisely and responsibly.
- Environmental impact:
We all know how the recent pandemic took a toll on everyone. Just like the adults, even the kids haven’t remained unmoved by its impacts. This tough phase forced our ever-agile and always bubbly kids to stay indoors, resulting in bad tempers, mood swings, anger exhibits, etc.
Moving on, we, at DPS Sushant Lok, believe that it would be unjust on our part if we don’t furnish a few strategies or tips to deal with the mean attitude of our little ones:
- Always remember that they want you, the parents, even more in the minutes of fuss and grumpy moods. So just be there with them!
- Never react angrily or punish in such scenarios. You, shouting on them and punishing them, mostly backfires, and they might come out even more mean and arrogant the next time.
- Try responding instead of reacting. It is very important that you pour effort to calmly teach them how they are wrong and what they should do or say instead. Avoid lecturing them or shouting at them, and respond as calmly and softly as possible.
- Remind yourself that none of us are perfect. As kids, we also must have behaved similarly. Hence, cherish their imperfections.
- Stop holding kids to a higher standard of perfection each time.
- Try finding out the cause or the source behind their mean behavior instead of simply blaming the child.
- Your patience at display is a real virtue in such situations. To talk less and listen more will work as the magic wand here!
- Teach them deep breathing, slow breathing, and counting backward from 10.
Lastly, we, at Delhi Public School, Sushant Lok, positioned among the top 10 schools in Gurgaon, would like to appeal to all the adults out there, readers of this article, and not to forget the parents community, to never apply the principle of “diamond cuts diamond” in scenarios of mean behavior portrayed by the kids. Instead, please give them a lap of freedom, understanding, and patience. And we promise that once strived, this strategy will never deceive you!